The Zsa Zsa Zu

I met this wonderful guy about two months ago that meets all the check list items on my "perfect" guy checklist. (Even if we as women try and tell you that we don't have a checklist we're lying because each one of us does.) He is thoughtful, pays for me when we go out, opens doors for me, loves to watch baseball and even held my hair back last night when I was puking in my lawn. (Hey give me a break it was Game 5 - Pistons v. Pacers.) He should be perfect for me and everyone that I hang out with tells me that.

So that proably leads you to think, "What is the problem then?" Even though he meets every checklist item there is just no zsa zsa zu! You know...the thing that gives you the butterflies in the stomach feeling when he kisses you. The excited feeling you get when he is going to come and get you to go out on a date. The zsa zsa zu is so critical to every relationship. It is what makes us want to be with that person years later when all the puppy love is gone and there are no more first's to experience with them.

Now don't get me wrong...It isn't like he is some horrible kisser or anything. I mean as a matter of fact I enjoy making out with him and laying next to him. He makes me laugh and allows me to just be myself around him, but that leads us back to the fact that the feeling is just not there. Why am I so nervous to get involved in something when there is no zsa zsa zu?

But that gets me thinking...Do we really need zsa zsa zu? I know that it is critical but how critical? I have had it in a lot of other relationships and they just don't seem to ever work out. How important is it in a relationship? Is it really enough to not take this to the next level...